Tackling Taboo Talk

Alliterations aside (heh), part of why Whole Damn Woman exists is because I grew tired of being told things weren’t polite to discuss. I remember in the early days of my Instagram use, I shared I wanted to talk about bodies and sex and food and politics and sexuality and race . . . a friend replied, “You mean all the stuff that’s not polite to bring up over dinner?”

Yes, that’s exactly what I mean.

Think about it. We live in a constant relationship with our bodies, but we rarely talk about them. During a presentation this morning, I asked attendees if they were ever asked as kids, “How do you feel about your body today?” Or even “How are you feeling in your body today?” No one said yes.

Yet we’re also told, “Listen to your body.” Like how? No one teaches us that. But we can’t bring it up because talking about bodies is impolite.

The same goes for politics, which influences and affects literally everything we do. Yet it’s rude to talk about it because it’s supposedly divisive.

Sex? Literally how we are created.

Food? Literally how we stay alive.

Sexuality? Literally how we maneuver major relationships.

Race? Literally a part of how we encounter one another.

Yet we aren’t supposed to talk about these things? This is my problem. Calling such major topics “impolite” forces us into silence, which perpetuates hatred, violence, abuse, and ignorance. If we can’t talk about what massively affects us, how are we to tackle the problems?

Maybe calling it all “impolite” was by design . . .

Weekly Update: Course, Newsletter, & Boobs

I’m constantly experimenting with this blog, so let’s try a weekly update, shall we?


My April course is (FINALLY) up! It’s called Love Your Jiggles: How to Develop Self-Compassion for Fatness. I normally release courses on the first of the month, but this one was a challenge. I wanted to approach it differently than I had my other courses so far, and I ended up with something totally new to me. There’s a lot more videos, a lot more of me trying to be myself, and a lot more of me trying to be myself ON CAMERA, WHICH I HATE. But I think I’m happy with the result, and I hope you like it too!


Also late was my newsletter. That usually goes out on the 15th, but I decided to release it and the course simultaneously. If you aren’t already signed up, go here. Shhhhh. Don’t argue. There might be free stuff coming in future months, and you don’t want to miss that, right? You can also look for the little form that pops up on pretty much every damn page of my website. That should be a hint, right?


The wonderful Vanessa from DevourLV (formerly Devour DSM) made this AMAZETITS tumbler for me, and I’m just in awe of how fucking gorgeous it is! She totally surprised me with it, and I cannot get over it! Check out her shop on Etsy and on Instagram!


Preview: Dix in a Bag (NSFW)

I’d like to introduce Dix. Dix the Destroyer from Geeky Sex Toys.

Disclaimer: The Geeky Sex Toy link is an affiliate link. I receive 10 percent from each sale when that link is used. This, however, does not alter my opinion of their products. If I review a product, it will be 100 percent honest because that’s how I roll. But I’m not the only one who gets perks! You can use the code WHOLEVIBE5 when you check out for a 5 percent discount!

Dix the Destroyer

I fell in love with Geeky Sex Toys a year or so ago, but I’d never purchased anything from them for myself. I bought a gift for a friend, and she told me the quality was outstanding, so I knew I’d buy something eventually. I’d had my eye on Dix for months, but I couldn’t convince myself. See . . . it’s large. Like . . . comically. But I was curious, and I loved the look, so I finally bought it.

A review is on its way eventually, but for now, I can vouch for Geeky Sex Toys. The quality on this is excellent. It’s 100 percent silicone. This one is a softer choice, but others are more firm. There’s no suction cup, sadly, but it is hand-painted and well-crafted.

More soon!

Discount! Geeky Sex Toys!

Y’all! I’m excited to announce I’m now an affiliate for Geeky Sex Toys! What that means is, if you use that link and make a purchase, I get ten percent. HOWEVER, I also have a discount code, which gets you off . . . gets you five percent off: WHOLEVIBE5.

I know five percent doesn’t seem like much, but sex toys are expensive. So, let’s say you love the idea of a glow-in-the-dark laser sword dildo that is definitely not at all meant to be a light saber. Five percent knocks over $7 off the cost. Seven bucks buys a sandwich, man. I’m just saying. Save where you can.

Anyway, I’ve also applied to become an influencer for them, so I’m hoping Geeky Sex Toys will become a bigger, harder, much more inappropriate part of Whole Damn Woman. For now, please enjoy the discount. Use that link, use the code, and use your toys!

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